Shelley  Messing

Shelley Messing

Licensed Clinical Social Worker, LCSW Master of Social Work, MSW
New York Accepting Online
Updated November 9, 2020

Specialties & Expertise

  • Trauma
  • Anxiety
  • Couples counseling
  • Relationships
  • College & graduate student mental health
  • Substance abuse

Professional statement

Shelley Messing is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Manhattan. She has over 30 years of clinical experience and has a wide range of clinical interests and areas of specialization, including the treatment of Trauma and Complex PTSD, where she works with survivors of sexual, physical, and emotional abuse, rape, and developmental traumas, such as neglect or growing up with a mentally ill or substance abusing parent. She works with all kinds of couples, with college students and young adults "launching" into the next chapter of life, and with people struggling with symptoms such as anxiety, depression, and substance abuse. She treats people dealing with relationship and work challenges, as well as those dealing with grief and loss.

Shelley has developed a varied tool kit to help individuals and couples explore their inner and outer realities, and to support the hard work of change and transformation. She frequently incorporates mindfulness practices, experiments, EMDR, and Sensorimotor Psychotherapy ( a body-focused, mindfulness-informed, empowering therapy) into talk therapy to help people learn to notice when they are being triggered, to regulate their own nervous systems, and to explore various avenues for meaningful change.

Shelley respects her patients' boundaries and honors the relationship she develops with them. She is always aware of the power imbalance inherent in the relationship and knows it takes a lot of courage to seek out treatment and be vulnerable. She values the inner resources and survival strategies that have gotten each person to the present moment. She hopes to expand awareness of new skills and patterns of relating that might better serve each person in current day life. She helps people notice how they respond in their bodies as they talk about certain experiences before suggesting experiments with new tools and strategies. Shelley works creatively and treats each person and situation as unique. She involves her patients in creating a treatment that is meaningful and moves at a pace that is tolerable.

When working with couples, Shelley utilizes many techniques that are designed to help couples get underneath endless conflicts and disappointments to understand each other better and communicate more effectively. She helps couples learn to become less reactive, to slow down, and to feel more compassionate towards themselves and their partner.

Shelley continues to learn from and incorporate the latest research in neurobiology, mindfulness, and trauma in her sessions. She tailors her work to the individual, not to one particular model. She enjoys both the art and the science of being a therapist.


Message to clients

I believe a good therapeutic relationship is an essential component of any type of therapy experience. I've been told I'm non-judgmental and easy to talk to. I have a good sense of humor. It takes a lot of courage to begin with a therapist. I honor that and will help you identify your inner strengths and resources that have helped you thus far, and offer you new tools and strategies to experiment with as we work together to transform your life into one filled with joy and purpose.


Specialties

Trauma - Coping and healing after threatening or scary events, such as experiencing sexual, verbal, emotional, or physical abuse. Coping with the aftereffects of developmental trauma, including growing up with neglect, deprivation, family violence, addiction/alcoholism, and/or mental illness of parents

Anxiety - Coping with excessive worry, nervousness, or stress; intense discomfort in social settings (social anxiety); sudden and intense feelings of panic (panic disorder)

Couples counseling - Addressing relationship challenges and life transitions; strengthening communication and feelings of security, desire, connection, and love

Relationships - Understanding one’s wants and needs in relationships; exploring patterns of interaction, addressing concerns, and strengthening satisfaction in relationships and dating

College & graduate student mental health - Specialized strategies for common issues of young adulthood, including school and career stressors, support around healthy relationships, existential concerns, drug or alcohol issues, eating disorders, and anxiety and/or depression

Substance abuse - Reducing and preventing the negative impact of drug and alcohol use and addictions on physical, emotional, and relational health




Clientele

  • Adults (24+)
  • Couples
  • Families
  • Parents
  • Teenagers (13-18)
  • Young adults (18-24)

Insurance

Shelley Messing is not in-network with any insurances.

Read about the benefits of seeing an out-of-network provider here.


Out-of-pocket fees

  • Ongoing sessions: $250 (45min)
  • Initial session: $300 (60min)
  • Longer ongoing Sessions: $300 (60min)

Additional session information

Out-of-network billing options

This provider can support you in getting reimbursement from your insurance company if you are seeking out-of-network reimbursement. Here are the out-of-network billing options they provide:

  • Super billing

Location(s)

Online Sessions (New York)
Accepting new clients online
Currently Available Times
  • Morning (Before 10am)
  • Daytime (10am - 1pm)
  • Afternoon (1pm - 5pm)
  • Evening (After 5pm)
  • Weekends
Regular Hours
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  • Sun Please inquire about hours

Work and Education

Private Practice, 1986 - Present
Brooklyn Psychiatric Centers, Inc., 1986 - 1991
Fordham-Tremont Community Mental Health Center, 1985 - 1986

New York University, MSW, 1985
SUNY at Buffalo, BA, 1976


Languages

English


Therapy Groups

Shelley  Messing
Support Group For Women With Histories of Interpersonal Trauma

This ongoing, interactive group, currently online, is for women who have experienced some form of interpersonal trauma, whether in childhood or more recently. It is an ongoing, weekly group that facilitates deep change and transformation.