Feeling uncertain about the course of your life is normal, and even rational to a certain extent. We’ve all wondered at times whether we’re making the right choices about our careers and partners.
However, when these difficulties feel especially urgent or persistent, they can become overwhelming. It's at that point when our anxious, depressed, or unsatisfied thoughts may have manifested themselves as an existential crisis.
Symptoms of an existential crisis
How can you tell whether what you're experiencing is, in fact, an existential crisis? Here are common signs:
You feel overwhelmed or panicked about death
Existential crises often include an increased awareness of the difficulty of life or even the reality of death. This can be overwhelming to contemplate.
Your thoughts might be along the lines of "What's the point of life, if I'm doomed to die?"
You're sad or remorseful about things you cannot change
You might find yourself dwelling on the path you have taken in life so far, and feeling sad that things have not gone differently.
For example, you may wish you'd taken a different career path or ended up with a different romantic partner.
This may lead to, or correspond with, depression.
You're worrying much more than you normally do
You may be unusually preoccupied with worry about the meaning of your life, and/or the choices you have made. This may lead to anxiety.
Causes of an existential crisis
Not sure what might have prompted your existential crisis? It could be related to a major change or shift in your personal life.
Here are a few reasons that people experience existential crises:
You recently entered a new life phase
People in the following life stages are all examples of individuals who might find themselves questioning who they are, and what they are doing with their lives:
- Finishing college
- Entering quarter-life
- Entering middle-life
You experienced a change in relationships or family roles
Significant relational changes, such as the following, might lead to an existential crisis:
- Getting married
- Going through a breakup
- Having a new baby
- Having one’s children leave home
- The death of a loved one
You're questioning your career path
Whether leaving an old job, taking on a new one, or considering a new career altogether, finding meaning and belonging in work can be a major theme of existential crises.
You're living in a new place
Particularly for those immigrating to a new country, the process of moving and adapting to a new community might connect to crises around meaning and identity.
What to do if you’re experiencing an existential crisis
If you’re experiencing the kinds of challenges described above, consider the following options:
- Therapy for existential depression. Find a therapist who can help you navigate challenging changes and life circumstances. (See more tips below on selecting a therapist.)
- Journaling. Keeping a written record of your thoughts and feelings around your existential challenges may help you clarify your questions about your identity and how you make meaning in your life.
- Meditation or mindfulness practices. You can experiment with meditation or other mindfulness practices through classes or apps. Studies have shown that these practices can help reduce the symptoms of stress and anxiety that may accompany existential crises.
What to look for in a therapist for existential crises
You can work with a therapist to treat your existential crisis. When you're starting your search for help, here are a few things to keep in mind:
Look for a therapist who has a specialty in working with clients in similar situations
Therapists differ in their approaches to treating existential crises. Common approaches include:
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
- Existential Psychotherapy
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
- Psychodynamic Therapy
- Interpersonal Psychotherapy
- Mindfulness Practices
Helpful questions to ask
These questions may prove helpful when interviewing potential therapists:
- What therapy type (possibly one of the examples above) do you use when helping clients manage anxiety?
- Does you have experience working with clients who have my particular symptoms?
Prioritize personal fit
While personality fit is a nuanced factor, it is critical to your success in therapy. Multiple studies have revealed the importance of this factor, often referred to as “therapeutic alliance.”
On your initial phone call with the therapist, ask yourself:
- Could I see myself forming a connection with this therapist?
- Does their approach suit my personality?
- Do I feel like I will be heard and respected by this therapist?
Additionally, consider these factors:
- Some therapists are more reflective and spend most of the session listening and drawing insights about your patterns and coping styles.
- Some therapists are more directive, establishing weekly agendas and assigning tasks to complete between sessions.
- Some utilize specific techniques or tools (exposure exercises, eye movements, tapping, breath work, guided imagery, art and music, etc.).
- Some use a combination of multiple approaches.
Consider cost, location, and scheduling
Therapy will only work if it works for you. Before making an appointment, ask yourself honestly:
- Can I afford these session fees? The cost of therapy depends on location, practitioner, and whether you’re using insurance.
- Can I commit to attending sessions regularly? Remember to account for travel time, and other demands in your schedule.
- Do the therapists’ available times work for me? Some therapists offer evening and weekend appointments if you have an otherwise limited schedule.
Find therapists specializing in existential challenges near you
Find therapists who specialize in existential challenges on Zencare, below. Search by insurance, fees, and location; watch therapist introductory videos; and book free initial calls to find the right therapist for you.
- Therapists for existential challenges in NYC
- Therapists for existential challenges in Boston
- Therapists for existential challenges in Providence
New to therapy? Learn about how to find a therapist here.