Patients are often uncertain what to expect from the process of therapy. They are not sure of what to expect of the therapist or even if the therapist has any expectations of them.
I have found most patients approach therapy with the notion that each person will describe their distress and somehow the therapist will assist them to create happier, more functional, relationships. They expect to learn some new or better skills.
First, I do have some expectations of you. I am not neutral. I have evolved principles and concepts that I believe give us the greatest chance for success.
The hardest part of therapy is accepting you will need to improve your response to a problem (how you think about it, feel about it, or what to do about it). Very few people want to focus on improving their response. It’s more common to build a strong case for why others should do the improving.
Your job is to create your own individual objectives for being in therapy. Like a good coach, my job is to help you reach them. I have many, many tools to help you become a more effective person – they work best when you are clear about how you aspire to be.
The major aim of therapy is increasing your knowledge about yourself and your patterns of interacting in with others. Therapy becomes effective as you apply new knowledge to break ineffective patterns and develop better ones.