Description
Most men were never taught how to talk about what's really going on inside. This group gives you a place to finally do that — with other men who get it. We work on the real stuff: anger, sadness, anxiety, loneliness, relationship stress, and the pressure of holding it all together. This isn't venting in a circle — it's structured, therapist-led work that actually moves the needle. If you're ready to stop white-knuckling it alone, this group is for you.
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Group Therapist
Paul Chiariello, MSc, MSW, is a New York-based therapist. He currently serves as a Senior Clinician of the NY Schema Therapist Training Center and is the founding director of the NY Men's Mental Health Therapists' Collective. He works primarily with men who are navigating the pressures of relationships, identity, career, fatherhood, anger, ADHD, depression, and loneliness. His clientele includes individuals who are ready to do real work in therapy, not just talk about it. He also sees couples seeking to strengthen their connection and communication, and men looking for a structured group setting with similar peers. He currently runs three ongoing men's therapy groups, including one specifically for guys in their twenties.
Paul's approach is integrative, evidence-based, and grounded in the therapeutic relationship itself - honesty, warmth, genuine connection. Rather than settling into one modality, he draws on Schema Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, while incorporating mindfulness, psychoeducation, guided imagery, and between-session work as needed. The goal is always the same: help clients build genuine insight and make changes that actually stick.
Paul's path to clinical work was anything but direct. After a Fulbright fellowship in Indonesia and an MSc in Sociology focusing on identity-based conflict, he spent years doing fieldwork in Uganda, Bosnia, India, and elsewhere. Returning to the US, he worked in wilderness therapy, schools, camps, and mentorship programs. This broad background - more than fifteen years working with adolescents and adult men across educational, nonprofit, and clinical settings - shapes how he shows up each day.
Paul sees clients via telehealth across New York State, weekdays 10am–8pm. Although he is currently only seeing clients out-of-network, he can provide superbills for out-of-network reimbursement, with many PPO plans reimbursing 50–80% of costs. A free 15-minute consultation is available.
