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Paul Chiariello, LMSW(He/Him/His)

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Licensed Master Social Worker, LMSW
New York
Men's issues-ADHD-Anger management- Depression- Relationship issues- Existential crisis & challenges-
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Professional statement

Paul Chiariello, MSc, MSW, is a New York-based therapist. He currently serves as a Senior Clinician of the NY Schema Therapist Training Center and is the founding director of the NY Men's Mental Health Therapists' Collective. He works primarily with men who are navigating the pressures of relationships, identity, career, fatherhood, anger, ADHD, depression, and loneliness. His clientele includes individuals who are ready to do real work in therapy, not just talk about it. He also sees couples seeking to strengthen their connection and communication, and men looking for a structured group setting with similar peers. He currently runs three ongoing men's therapy groups, including one specifically for guys in their twenties.

Paul's approach is integrative, evidence-based, and grounded in the therapeutic relationship itself - honesty, warmth, genuine connection. Rather than settling into one modality, he draws on Schema Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, while incorporating mindfulness, psychoeducation, guided imagery, and between-session work as needed. The goal is always the same: help clients build genuine insight and make changes that actually stick.

Paul's path to clinical work was anything but direct. After a Fulbright fellowship in Indonesia and an MSc in Sociology focusing on identity-based conflict, he spent years doing fieldwork in Uganda, Bosnia, India, and elsewhere. Returning to the US, he worked in wilderness therapy, schools, camps, and mentorship programs. This broad background - more than fifteen years working with adolescents and adult men across educational, nonprofit, and clinical settings - shapes how he shows up each day.

Paul sees clients via telehealth across New York State, weekdays 10am–8pm. Although he is currently only seeing clients out-of-network, he can provide superbills for out-of-network reimbursement, with many PPO plans reimbursing 50–80% of costs. A free 15-minute consultation is available.


Message to clients

If you've found your way here, something in your life isn't working the way you want it to - and part of you already knows this. Maybe it's your relationships, your anger, your focus, or a creeping emptiness you can't quite name. Whatever it is, know that reaching out is one of the hardest parts.

I work in a way that's both structured and collaborative, challenging and empathic. You'll never just be sitting there wondering what we're doing or why. I'll be direct with you, I'll push back when it matters, and I'll introduce real evidence-based tools as we need them. But I'll also go at your pace and focus on the issues that matter most to you. Therapy with me isn't about being fixed or managed. It's about more deeply understanding and accepting yourself and, from there, building a life that actually fits who you are. Most of my clients come in skeptical that therapy can do much for them. Most leave having changed things they didn't think were changeable.

One thing I want you to know before we start: this is a no-judgment zone (frankly, I'm unsure if I'm capable of judgment anymore). But it's definitely not a comfort zone. I'll ask things of you, and some of our work will require discomfort. I'll also be honest about what I see. If you're willing to show up and challenge yourself, you'll find a warm but tough companion for the trip.


Work and Education

Years of Experience: 7 years

The NY Schema Therapy Training Center, Senior Clinician, 2020 - Present
Lana Gaiton Psychological Services, Psychotherapist, 2020 - 2025
Wonder. A Confident Living Company, Psychotherapist, 2019 - 2021
Blue Ridge Therapeutic Wilderness, Clinical Field Instructor, 2018 - 2020
Pathway Partners, Youth Mentor, 2016 - 2019
Global Kids, After School Trainer, 2015 - 2017
Camp Quest National, Youth Development Specialist, 2013 - 2015

Internat. Society for Schema Therapy, Schema Therapy - Level 1 Adv. Training, 2022
New York University, Certificate in Advanced Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, 2021
Internat. Center for Excellence in EFT, Emotion Focused Therapy - Level 2 Adv. Training, 2021
Columbia University, Masters in Clinical Social Work, 2019
University of Oxford, Masters in Sociology, 2011

Licensure

New York: 108643

Languages

English

Specialties

Men's issues - Expertise in working with adult men; providing a safe and understanding space to address life challenges and promote physical and mental health

ADHD - Skill-building and support around organizational challenges, distracted attention, procrastination; building and maintaining healthy routines and structure

Anger management - Addressing sudden outbursts of anger or sustained resentment; developing healthy anger expression and outlets

Depression - Providing support and promoting healing of hopelessness, low motivation and energy, sadness, irritability, sleep disturbance, and loss of interest and pleasure in life

Relationship issues - Understanding one’s wants and needs in relationships; exploring patterns of interaction, addressing concerns, and strengthening satisfaction in relationships and dating

Existential crisis & challenges - Supportive exploration of meaning and purpose in one’s life; finding one’s path in the face of existential anxiety, dread, and feelings of meaninglessness




Clientele

  • Adults (24+)
  • Couples
  • Parents
  • Teenagers (13-18)
  • Young adults (18-24)

Locations & Hours


Insurance

Paul Chiariello is not in-network with any insurances.

Read about the benefits of seeing an out-of-network provider here.


Out-of-pocket fees

  • Individual sessions:$275 (45min)
  • Sliding scale:$150 - $275

Additional session information

Out-of-network billing options

This provider can support you in getting reimbursement from your insurance company if you are seeking out-of-network reimbursement. Here are the out-of-network billing options they provide:

  • Super billing
Payment options
  • Credit Card
  • Debit Card
Session frequency

Frequency of sessions this provider offers to see clients once you are an established client.

  • Weekly
  • Monthly
  • Every other week
  • Every other month
  • Multiple times a week
  • As needed

Therapy Groups

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Men's Online Therapy & Support Group (Tues 6pm)

A therapist-led group for men ready to stop white-knuckling it alone — tackling anger, anxiety, loneliness, and stress alongside other men who get it.

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Men's Online Therapy & Support Group (Tues 8:30pm)

A therapist-led group for men navigating the pressures of partnership, career, fatherhood, and beyond — improving communication, managing conflict, and showing up without burning out.

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Young Men's Online Therapy Support Group (20 yo's)

An affordable, therapist-led group for men in their 20s working through identity, relationships, and mental health — with peers who are in it too.


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