Ellen  Carni

Ellen Carni

Psychologist, PhD

Accepting new clients for morning, afternoon, daytime, & weekend appointments in Upper West Side practice (updated December 03, 2019)

Specialties & Expertise

  • Life transitions
  • Loss and grief
  • Relationships
  • Trauma
  • Lawyers under stress
  • Divorce & separation

Professional statement

Dr. Ellen Carni is a licensed Clinical Psychologist experienced in working with people at all stages of the lifespan. She enjoys and is very successful in helping individuals in early and mid-life transitions struggling with major decisions regarding relationships, careers, family lives, and existential problems of living. She also specializes in grief and loss, whether it be the loss of a loved one or loss of identity in the face of a diagnosis of chronic illness. She helps professionals, especially lawyers, manage stress and find work-life balance in high pressure careers.

Dr. Carni is also effective with Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), a psychotherapeutic technique that works with the brain to dissipate traumatic memories. She uses a combination of EMDR and insight-oriented therapy to help clients process trauma, PTSD, phobias, and performance anxiety.

Drawing on her expertise as a relational psychoanalyst, Dr. Carni works collaboratively and pragmatically to help you explore the influence of your early life on your personality, relationships and current stressful situations. She empowers you to become your own therapist so you have the tools to improve your relationships, career and overall life satisfaction.

People who work with Dr. Carni describe her as compassionate, a good listener, and easy to talk to about difficult concerns. She creates a respectful and nonjudgmental therapeutic space. Dr. Carni is passionate about practicing psychotherapy and looks forward to working with you at her Upper West Side office, conveniently located on West 86th Street.

Message to clients

It can feel daunting to find a therapist with whom you can feel comfortable. I work with you early on to help you feel safe. I do my best to help you develop greater trust in yourself and others, greater self-confidence and healthy self-assertion. My objective is to assist you in finding the resources within yourself to achieve your true potential, accomplish personal and professional goals and lead a life worth celebrating. I welcome you to reach out.
’Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight or an experience that reveals the human spirit.
—E.E. Cummings’


Life transitions - Coping with difficult or impactful life changes, such as moving to a new area, relationship transitions, child rearing, or career changes; learning self-care to better manage resulting stress

Loss and grief - Emotionally preparing for the anticipated passing of a loved one; managing feelings and reactions to a death or loss of significance; support during the process of healing and acceptance

Relationships - Understanding one’s wants and needs in relationships; exploring patterns of interaction, addressing concerns, and strengthening satisfaction in relationships and dating

Trauma - Coping and healing after threatening or scary events, such as witnessing accidents or experiencing sexual, verbal, emotional, or physical abuse

Lawyers under stress - Strengthening effective ways of coping with the stress that comes with being a lawyer; managing expectations of self and others

Divorce & separation - Questioning or feeling unsatisfied in your relationship; contemplation and navigation of separation; addressing issues of power, voice, and communication challenges

General expertise


Out-of-pocket fees

  • Ongoing sessions: $250 (45min)
  • Sliding scale: $175 - $250
  • Initial session: $250 (45min)

Therapist's note

Couples sessions and 60min individual sessions are pro-rated.

Dr. Carni can provide you with paperwork for your insurance company if you are seeking out-of-network reimbursement.


Remote video therapy sessions offered? Yes

Upper West Side practice

20 West 86th Street

Suite 1B

New York, NY 10024

  • Mon Closed
  • Tue 8:00am-7:00pm
  • Wed 8:00am-7:00pm
  • Thu 8:00am-7:00pm
  • Fri Closed
  • Sat 9:00am-1:00pm
  • Sun Closed

Work and Education

Private Practice, 1995 - Present

NYU, Postdoctoral Certificate in Psychoanalysis

City University of NY, PhD

EMDR Institute, Certificate in EMDR

Columbia University, MA

Barnard College, BA


  • English