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Emily Eldar(She/They)

Licensed Mental Health Counselor, LMHC
Relationship issues- Couples counseling- Sexual health & dysfunction-Nonmonogamy, polyamory, and kink- LGBTQIA, gender, & sexuality topics- Trauma-

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Professional statement

I am a licensed mental health counselor following my passion in helping individuals and couples to heal their relational wounds, self-actualize, and shape lives of growth and meaning. I treat clients of all identities but have additional expertise in non-monogamous, kink-identified, and LGBTQIA+ populations. I have specialized training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy, Imago, sexuality, trauma, BDSM and kink, polyamorous and non-monogamous relationships, and IFS.

Most of our struggles are relational in nature - how we relate to others, how we relate to ourselves and our bodies, and even how we relate to symbolic objects such as food, substances, money, etc. When we heal our relational wounds and peel back the layers to reveal our deepest needs, we can step into the self-actualized, meaningful, joyful lives we dream of. We all sustain life traumas which shape our beliefs about ourselves, others, and the world. When we can understand the protective systems of behavior we build in the service of our psychological and physical survival we have the opportunity to update our narratives based on our current empowerment and wisdom. In updating our core schemas, we unburden our traumatized parts of self, heal attachment wounds, and make room to relate from our place of highest self. When we set down our burdens and unhelpful lenses and relate from a place of self, we can learn the new levels of skill in communication, somatic regulation, mindfulness, and self-actualization which our wise self is ready for. In doing so, we can more fully build the relationships and overall life which best serve us and our continual growth.

Message to clients

I have spent much of my adult life in creative communities aligned in non-monogamy, kink, and queerness. I have also made a professional study of relationships, sexuality, alternative lifestyles, trauma, and mindfulness. This knowledge has allowed me unique insights, which have in turn influenced my therapeutic work, gifted me a window into those worlds, and allow me to better hold compassionate and empathetic space for my clients. Although my clients may come from a wide range of relational, gender, and sexual identities, each individual is unique and seeing the world with an open mind is the only way to truly see others. When we are held in the safety of being fully seen and heard, that is when we can come into alignment within ourselves to do our best self-work.

Work and Education

Years of Experience: 9 years

Private Practice, Mental Health Counselor

Cambridge College, Mental Health Counseling, 2015


Massachusetts: 10903 - Oregon: C8230




Relationship issues - Understanding one’s wants and needs in relationships; exploring patterns of interaction, addressing concerns, and strengthening satisfaction in relationships and dating

Couples counseling - Addressing relationship challenges and life transitions; strengthening communication and feelings of security, desire, connection, and love

Sexual health & dysfunction - Addressing emotional, physical, and biological concerns related to sexual intimacy and functioning; education and skill building around topics such as erectile dysfunction, orgasms, low libido, shame, and history of abuse; improving communication to realize a fulfilling sex life

Nonmonogamy, polyamory, and kink - Exploring one’s values in and beliefs about relationships; practicing boundary-setting, conflict resolution, and romantic or sexual relationship bonding with partners

LGBTQIA, gender, & sexuality topics - Exploring topics of sexuality, gender, and identity; coping with discrimination and oppression; navigating relationship, family, and cultural challenges

Trauma - Coping and healing after threatening or scary events, such as witnessing accidents or experiencing sexual, verbal, emotional, or physical abuse


  • Adults (24+)
  • Couples
  • Parents
  • Young adults (18-24)

Locations & Hours


Emily Eldar is not in-network with any insurances.

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Out-of-pocket fees

  • Individual sessions:$200 (50min)

Additional session information

Out-of-network billing options

This provider can support you in getting reimbursement from your insurance company if you are seeking out-of-network reimbursement. Here are the out-of-network billing options they provide:

  • Super billing
Payment options
  • Credit Card
  • Debit Card
Session frequency

Frequency of sessions this provider offers to see clients once you are an established client.

  • Weekly
  • Monthly
  • Every other week
  • Every other month
  • Multiple times a week
  • As needed