Emelia  Haiken

Emelia Haiken


Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT Specialties Insurance & Fees Locations
California Accepting Online
San Francisco Accepting In-person

I’m back from a short leave and have many openings in my practice that aren’t usually available! Contact me about a free consultation.

Updated August 2, 2023

Specialties & Expertise

  • Adolescent mental health
  • Anxiety
  • Child mental health
  • LGBTQIA, gender, and sexuality topics
  • Sexual harassment & assault
  • Trauma

Professional statement

Emelia Haiken is a psychodynamic psychotherapist in private practice in San Francisco. She sees children, teens, and adults once a week or more often. Because of her interest in psychodynamic and analytic theories, many of her patients have a history of childhood trauma. In addition to this speciality, she has particular interest in childhood development, sexuality, sexual abuse, and LGBTQ issues.

Emelia works psychodynamically, which is a modality of therapy that focuses on how the past affects the present. In this type of work, there is a belief that not everything in our lives are conscious to us. Therefore therapy is a great way to become more aware of our feelings, our behaviors, and cycles that keep us unsatisfied. She believes this kind of therapy can be helpful to everyone, but is especially helpful for those who have patterns of difficult relationships. With children, Emelia practices play therapy, which is a form of psychodynamic therapy. Play is the emotional language of children, and helping children express themselves through play can slow unwanted behavioral and emotional issues.

Emelia trained at Valley Community Clinic (Los Angeles), The Maple Counseling Center (Beverly Hills), and The Psychotherapy Institute (Berkeley) which have all been focused on psychodynamic or psychoanalytic training. She has also taken certificate programs at The San Francisco Center for Psychoanalysis.

Her office is located on Geary and Divisadero in San Francisco. The building is a medical office building that has elevators and includes HEPA filtration systems in each individual office. Emelia's office is large enough to allow for 6 feet between herself and my patients, therefore she is able to see fully vaccinated patients in-person if they choose. Emelia also provides online therapy for those who are not yet comfortable coming into the office, or live too far away.

Message to clients

It is very exciting that you are taking the first steps to start therapy! It is not easy to start this process, whether you have been in therapy before or are trying it our for the first time. My hope is that I can be a guide for you in this unique relationship and help you understand how this process works. Your hour in therapy is exactly that--yours. It is here for you to be yourself in whatever way you find helpful. As therapy progresses, I find that many of my patients start to feel more authentic in their relationships because they feel more comfortable being themselves with me.

Over the almost 10 years of being a therapist, I’ve seen and worked with many different people with many different struggles. I’ve found that my training and experience best suits teens and adults who are struggling with anxiety, perfectionism, sexual trauma, childhood trauma, and questions about their sexuality. However, I often get calls from folks who can’t quite put their finger on why they are so unhappy. I love working with my clients to help them uncover what is causing pain in their life and why.


Adolescent mental health - Working with adolescents, teenagers, and parents on social, academic, and/or emotional challenges throughout teenage years; addressing anxiety, family conflicts, peer relationships, school stress, transition to college, social media pressures, self-esteem, hopelessness about the future, emotional disregulation

Anxiety - Coping with excessive worry, nervousness, or stress; intense discomfort in social settings (social anxiety); sudden and intense feelings of panic (panic disorder)

Child mental health - Specialized strategies for common childhood disorders including attention issues, attachment problems, behavioral disorders, learning disorders, mood disorders.

LGBTQIA, gender, and sexuality topics - Exploring topics of sexuality, gender, and identity; coping with discrimination and oppression; navigating relationship, family, and cultural challenges

Sexual harassment & assault - Caring support along the pathway to safety, wellbeing, and healing for survivors of sexual abuse and assault

Trauma - Coping and healing after threatening or scary events, such as witnessing accidents or experiencing sexual, verbal, emotional, or physical abuse


  • Adults (24+)
  • Children (<12)
  • Teenagers (13-18)
  • Young adults (18-24)


Emelia Haiken is not in-network with any insurances.

Read about the benefits of seeing an out-of-network provider here.

Out-of-pocket fees

  • Individual sessions: $195 (50min)
  • Family sessions: $250 (60min)
  • Play Therapy: $195 (45min)
  • Parental Consultation : $195 (50min)

Additional session information

Out-of-network billing options

This provider can support you in getting reimbursement from your insurance company if you are seeking out-of-network reimbursement. Here are the out-of-network billing options they provide:

  • Super billing
Payment options
  • Cash
  • Check
  • Credit Card
  • Debit Card
  • PayPal
  • Venmo
  • Zelle
Session frequency

Frequency of sessions this provider offers to see clients once you are an established client.

  • Weekly
  • Multiple times a week
Therapist's note

I sometimes have sliding scale or pro bono availabilities. Inquire with me to see what I have available and if you qualify.


Online Sessions (California)
Accepting new clients online
Currently Available Times
  • Morning (Before 10am)
  • Daytime (10am - 1pm)
  • Afternoon (1pm - 5pm)
  • Evening (After 5pm)
  • Weekends
Regular Hours
  • Mon Closed
  • Tue 8am-6pm
  • Wed 8am-6pm
  • Thu 8am-6pm
  • Fri Closed
  • Sat Closed
  • Sun Closed

San Francisco practice
2186 Geary Boulevard, Suite 211, San Francisco, California 94115
Accepting new clients in-person
Currently Available Times
  • Morning (Before 10am)
  • Daytime (10am - 1pm)
  • Afternoon (1pm - 5pm)
  • Evening (After 5pm)
  • Weekends
Regular Hours
  • Mon Closed
  • Tue 8am-6pm
  • Wed 8am-6pm
  • Thu 8am-6pm
  • Fri Closed
  • Sat Closed
  • Sun Closed

Work and Education

Years of Experience: 11 years

Private Practice, Psychotherapist, 2016 - Present
The Psychotherapy Institute, Staff Therapist, 2014 - 2017
Valley Community Clinic, Staff Therapist, 2011 - 2014

San Francisco Center for Psychoanalysis , Child and Adolescent Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy Training Program, 2019
The Psychotherapy Institute , Post-Graduate Training Program, 2016
Antioch University Los Angeles, MA, 2013
Occidental College, BA, 2008


California: 94356